I just found a show that’s shown on MTV called Catfish. Don’t really know why it’s called that but it’s an interesting show. It’s about people finding love online but one of the two isn’t all he/she seem to be. So these people develop an online relationship that lasts from anywhere from a few months to 10 years(!!) without actually seeing the other person or even speak on Skype. The other person, which always finds an excuse not to meet or some other lame reason why they can’t reveal themselves is then confronted and usually turns out to be a fat person that for one reason or another is shy about coming forth as they are because of the way they look.
This really got all sorts of emotions and thoughts going in my brainhouse, everything from pity and anger to ridicule. But it also hit a chord with me because I’ve been in these shoes so many times. I’ve met so many girls online and then waited as long as I could to meet in person because I was too ashamed of my weight. Things would be going great while we chat online (and I’d show an old picture of me) and actually we might start to get some feelings for one another.
I thought that if only I could postpone meeting them for a few weeks, everything would be ok, I’d lose 40 lbs, get a chiselled abs and we’d fall in love for ever and ever and make beautiful babies, or at least practice making babies!
But this also got me angry, because of the fact how obvious it is that looks matter sooo much. Girls always claim that it’s not about the looks, but the inner man and in most surveys they say that humor is more important than looks (what the hell is that about?? – what about honesty, trustworthy or an ability to make a nice living?? Shits and giggles don’t pay the bills!) – that’s right, I’m just a bitter man with no humor The fact is though, that looks are the number one thing, as is shown in the MTV show, because once the people meet up face to face, and one is much fatter than expected things always fall apart! It’s still the same person and usually the only thing that isn’t true is the looks, because the life stories, trust and companionship is real, no matter what the person looks like.
Now I’m just as shallow as the next guy (or girl) but the difference is that I admit that looks matter. Right now, I can get a girl, but she’s going to be fat… because of this unwritten rule of the Universe that fat people can only date fat people! And since I don’t like fat girls, I’ve been single for…. well don’t want to go into that as I don’t feel like getting depressed today.