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Is it ok to lie to your online crush?

 

I just found a show that’s shown on MTV called Catfish. Don’t really know why it’s called that but it’s an interesting show. It’s about people finding love online but one of the two isn’t all he/she seem to be. So these people develop an online relationship that lasts from anywhere from a few months to 10 years(!!) without actually seeing the other person or even speak on Skype. The other person, which always finds an excuse not to meet or some other lame reason why they can’t reveal themselves is then confronted and usually turns out to be a fat person that for one reason or another is shy about coming forth as they are because of the way they look.

This really got all sorts of emotions and thoughts going in my brainhouse, everything from pity and anger to ridicule. But it also hit a chord with me because I’ve been in these shoes so many times. I’ve met so many girls online and then waited as long as I could to meet in person because I was too ashamed of my weight. Things would be going great while we chat online (and I’d show an old picture of me) and actually we might start to get some feelings for one another.

I thought that if only I could postpone meeting them for a few weeks, everything would be ok, I’d lose 40 lbs, get a chiselled abs and we’d fall in love for ever and ever and make beautiful babies, or at least practice making babies!

But this also got me angry, because of the fact how obvious it is that looks matter sooo much. Girls always claim that it’s not about the looks, but the inner man and in most surveys they say that humor is more important than looks (what the hell is that about?? – what about honesty, trustworthy or an ability to make a nice living?? Shits and giggles don’t pay the bills!) – that’s right, I’m just a bitter man with no humor :) The fact is though, that looks are the number one thing, as is shown in the MTV show, because once the people meet up face to face, and one is much fatter than expected things always fall apart! It’s still the same person and usually the only thing that isn’t true is the looks, because the life stories, trust and companionship is real, no matter what the person looks like.

Now I’m just as shallow as the next guy (or girl) but the difference is that I admit that looks matter. Right now, I can get a girl, but she’s going to be fat… because of this unwritten rule of the Universe that fat people can only date fat people! And since I don’t like fat girls, I’ve been single for…. well don’t want to go into that as I don’t feel like getting depressed today.

To Cheat Or Not To Cheat. That Is The Question!

This is a huge debate within the weight loss industry. Should people once a week get to eat whatever their stomachs’ desire?

While one guru says you should stick to your diet and not stray away from it unless you life depends on it, the next weight loss ninja advocates a cheat day every fifth day. So what muscle jock should you listen to?

The funny thing about most weight loss “rules” is that they are usually based on people’s own experience (either as a dieter or a trainer) and usually not backed up by any notion of science. I actually couldn’t find any research that has looked into the effects of a cheat day on a diet, but as a general rule in previous research I’ve looked into, the more strict a diet is, the harder it is for people to sustain that diet.

Now this is a cheat meal!
Now this is a cheat meal!

Therefor I would say, as with so much else regarding fat loss, the best way is the way that works for you. If you are more likely to quit your diet altogether if you don’t get your fix of fat and sugar, than you should let in, even if it means that your cheat day becomes a cheat weekend. It’s about mentality. If you set up with the fact that this might happen, you are not looking at it as a failure. The worst thing that can happen is if you “fail” and think that now it’s all over so you might as well stop any effort to lose weight. Before you know it you are back to eating Oreos for breakfast and ordering that extra Big Mac when eating out. This is what happens when people give up and stop dieting.
And believe me, as time goes by and your weight decreases, these cheat days start loosing their appeal. You don’t want to jeopordize your results by pigging out. You’ve done it thousands of times before and it comes to a point when you see that it’s just a short term pleasure and not worth it in the long run.
Many people start a very strict diet and just can’t do it anymore and then all bets are off and they start eating like they are contenders in a championship eating contest.

One of the best advice I can give regarding cheat days is to ALWAYS start your cheat day with an exercise session. Go to the gym, go for a run, play ball. Anything, just get a really good workout.
This results in two things:
1 – your appetite is suppressed by the exercise.
2 – once you’ve put an hour of sweat and tears you aren’t as willing to ruin it all with a day of debauchery.

And just a quickie about slowing down metabolism. If you eat less then your Calorie Maintenance Level: 1) it takes 3-4 days before your body starts to slow down metabolism and 2) you still keep burning fat, it just slows it down. People have been put on starvation diets (the Minnesota Starvation Experiment) and still kept losing weight even though they had almost nothing to eat.

 

 

My Last Diet EVER!

Yeap, you read that correctly! Either it happens this time or I’m out, give up, throwing in the towel, chuck up the sponge and accept my life as a fatty.

Really, if I can’t do it this time, miserably single, approaching Forty and gave up my career to learn about the human body…. given it all up for this cause, than I really should just spend my time doing something a little more profitable and sane.

So I’ve beckoned on the people’s of YouTube nation to help me with my journey and show me support. In return I hope that one day I can help guys (remember, this is a no girls zone – girl have the cooties!) that are in my current shoes with their journey to a better life.

Check out my video at http://youtu.be/mNorhsh_b2c